Is it better to follow your Heart or your Head?

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If your head tells you one thing and your heart says another, which is the one you should listen to? When it comes to relationships, both play an important role. Here’s when you should listen to your head or your heart when it comes to love:

Follow your head when: 

  • When you’re thinking of cheating. If you have a wandering eye and are considering acting on it, put your emotions on hold and think about what you’re about to do. Cheating can have serious consequences in your relationship so think long and hard about what you might be risking. Don’t let your attraction or emotions rule your actions.
  • When you’re attracted to someone off-limits. Maybe you’re attracted to your best friend’s ex or someone else that you know you shouldn’t pursue. Don’t let your emotions cloud your judgment when it means that you’re risking your friendship or another important relationship. Think about what acting on your attraction would mean for your friendship instead of acting impulsively and following your heart.
  • When they treat you badly. Don’t listen to your emotions when you’re in a bad relationship. Your emotional side will make excuses for their bad behavior and get sentimental about their good qualities. Instead, you need to use your head and look at the cold hard facts if they treat you badly, it doesn’t matter how many good times you’ve had together.
  • When you’re thinking about getting physical. Leave your emotions (and libido) out of the equation when you’re contemplating taking your relationship to a more physical and intimate level. Think clearly about why you’re doing it and make sure you’re not being pressured. Weigh the consequences of what potential ways your relationship will be affected and definitely use your head to consider health and birth control options.

Follow your Heart when: 

  • When deciding who to be with. Forget what your head is telling you about whether or not someone is your usual type, or if your friends will approve. You can’t help whom you’re attracted to and if there’s someone that you just really want to be with, listen to your heart and go for it. Don’t worry about what your head or anyone else has to say about it.
  • When committing. If your heart tells you that you’ve struck relationship gold and you simply just want to be together, listen to your heart when deciding if you want to commit to someone. Don’t start weighing the pros and cons in your head and thinking about all of the reasons why you should keep your options open. If you’re really into someone and they feel the same, follow your heart and commit to them.
  • When it comes to long distance. There are a million reasons not to try a long distance relationship and it’s easy to talk yourself out of it. But sometimes it’s just the right person and you want to be together and make it work, no matter the distance. Listen to your heart to determine if they’re the one and you are willing to stay together even with a bit of distance between you.
  • When saying “I Love You”. Don’t let your head rule this one because it will surely talk you out of it. Expressing your love to someone is purely emotional. If you think about it too much you’ll likely be scared off by the risks. Take the leap and follow your heart if you want to reap the rewards of telling your partner that you love t

 

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The way to the star’s heart!

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Okay, so grab your pen and paper and get making notes, because I am about to hit at every star sign and the ways you can win the hearts of the people under them. Got a troublesome Gemini? Then struggle no more, I have the answers here;

 

Pisces – Get Creative!

Pisces are creative types who love to express their artistic sides. Join him at an art class or spend some time together in the kitchen, without a recipe.

Aquarius – Get quirky!

Aquarians march to the beat of their own drum, so you’ll need to appreciate their quirks. Discover what revs them and take an interest, even if it seems a bit kooky to you. You might even develop a love of xylophone symphonies!

Capricorn Get domestic!

Capricorns are one of the more reserved signs in the zodiac, so if you want to be with them you’ll need to appreciate a good night on. They’ll love you to cook a meal for them, so drag out those recipe books. End your evening snuggled up on the couch with a DVD.

SagittariusGet social!

Sagittarians are the life of any party, and they’ll want you to join them in the center. You can still have your intimate dinners for two, but you’ll need to balance them with bigger social occasions. Plan double-dates with your best friends and some great dinner parties!

ScorpioGet passionate! 

Scorpios are amongst the most intense signs in the zodiac, and they appreciate that passion in others. No Scorpio wants to date someone who’s wishy washy. Speak enthusiastically about your interests, your work, and your feelings for your main squeeze, and your Scorpio will be eating out of the palm of your hand.

LibraGet romantic!

While many modern men and dismiss classic romantic gestures as tired clichés, Libras lap them up. Arrive on their doorstep with chocolates and flowers and whisk them away for a candlelit dinner to make them swoon. Don’t forget to dress up too!

Virgo Get healthy!

Virgos care about their health, and the one you have your eye on will want you to do the same. Join your Virgo’s gym or find an active class you’ll both enjoy. Then invite them to yours for a yummy and nutritious meal cooked with organic, seasonal produce.

LeoGet pampering!

Just like the lion we associate with the star sign, a Leo loves to be adored. Leos are happiest when they’re the center of attention. Make sure to throw compliments their way and don’t hold back on the PDA!

CancerGet traditional!

Cancers are old-fashioned types who value traditional values. Invite yours to dinner with your relatives and a Cancer will fall at your feet. Watch early Mad Men for a little inspiration!

GeminiGet spontaneous!

Gemini bore easily, so you’ll need to keep yours guessing. Plan new experiences for your dates, the more unusual and daring the better. Embracing your adventurous side is the key to a Gemini’s heart.

TaurusGet charitable!

Taurus is one of the most generous sides of the zodiac, and they’ll be impressed if you want to give back. Why not organize a date volunteering at a soup kitchen or helping out at a local animal shelter? Your Taurus will love your humanitarian side!

AresGet competitive!

Aries love competition, so keep it sporty. Join them for a game of one-on-one basketball, or a round of bowling. You needn’t be a natural athlete either. Your Aries will love that you’re trying your best to win!

Jealousy in a relationship!

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Just some advising pointers to anyone who might be experiencing a little bit (or a lot) of jealousy in their relationship:

– Remember they are with you!

The difference between you and that person you’re jealous of? You get to be with your partner and the other person won’t! Remember that you have the advantage and enjoy your relationship instead of letting your day get spoiled.

– Make your feelings known.

If you’re feeling a little jealous, let your partner know. If you feel like a certain coworker or friend is getting way too close for comfort, talk it out with your partner in a calm way. Chances are they had no idea that person was even bothering you.

– Don’t get mad!

Jealousy and anger often go hand in hand. Unfortunately, a bad temper can really turn up the heat on jealous feelings and insecurity. It will cloud your mind and cause you to say or do things that you regret if you’re not careful.

– Try to channel it into something positive.

Jealousy is not necessarily a bad thing. It’s okay to care so much for someone that you want them to yourself. Just remember to channel it into something positive like a reminder that you are lucky to be with them instead of a threat.

– Don’t get possessive

One of our natural instincts is to get possessive of the things (or in this case, people) that we love. This may work with an object but your partner is a living, breathing person with feelings of their own. They deserve your love and respect but being possessive and demanding of them is rude and painful.

– Understand how the jealousy can affect others.

Any time a strong emotion is involved, it usually changes the way we behave. You may become more cynical or find yourself saying things you don’t mean. If you’ve noticed that you keep having a negative effect on other people (especially the ones who may be close to your partner) understand that your problem may need some fixing.

– Be confident!

One of the biggest causes of jealousy is fear that you’re not good enough. Don’t let your self-esteem change the way you approach your relationship. If you’re feeling insecure about your appearance then get active about taking better care of yourself and doing what you can to be the best you. However if it’s something deeper, this is an issue you may need to take more time to work through.

– Don’t ever make comparisons.

You would never compare your partner to someone else in a negative light so why do it to yourself? There will always be someone better looking, stronger, smarter, faster, younger, richer or more talented than you but that does not discredit anything you have to offer the world. Our differences are what make us special and your partner is with you because they know just how special you really are.

– Don’t make demands.

Sometimes this feeling can get the best of us and we say things that will only make it worse. It’s important to be open and honest with your partner but remember to do so in love and with patience. If your partner has been spending time with someone you’re not comfortable with, don’t demand that they end communication with the person. Work out respectful ways that will ease your fears and keep everyone happy.

– Understand the consequences.

There are consequences to jealousy in a relationship. Often times, it results in a lack of trust. Jealousy can damage a relationship beyond repair if you are not careful so make sure you’re not risking your relationship just because of your own doubts.

Friends with benefits/Fuck buddies

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So I had a conversation recently with someone recently about ‘friends with benefits’. I wasn’t being asked to be one, we were just discussing them and their practicality. From our discussion we came to a distinct difference of opinion. I thought it was impossible, whereas my friend thought it was very possible and had experienced it for himself.

So, without going into the Pros of being a ‘fuck buddy’, I am going to state my argument of what I think it cannot possibly work between two people, be it man and woman, man and man or woman and woman.

The old fashioned (or decent) way of looking at sex is that it should be something that happens between two people that love each other. However, in recent days, sex has become seen as a sordid act rather than.. well sex just being sex. This is because of today’s youth. You only have to go to Mardis Gras (such as the one that happened in Cardiff recently) or ANY Gay Pride and you will find two people hooking up in the crudest ways possible and in the most indecent of places.

There is always emotion in sex, otherwise I personally think it would be lame. I understand that porn stars and prostitutes will argue that there can be sex without emotion, however, the prostitute code is to never kiss their client as this could spark some sort of emotion. So I guess fuck buddies could limit their kissing..

Anyway, my point is that at some point one of the members of this arrangement is going to develop feelings for the other, and this is going to come crashing down on their arrangement. One may get jealous. Though what’s to get jealous about? It’s just sex right? Meaningless and fun sex? This is my point, there will always be an emotion involved for one, or two of the people involved. At some point feelings are going to emerge.

This is why I think that friends with benefits can never and will ever work out for a long term arrangement. A scenario:

Mary and Tod are fuck buddies. They have has this arrangement for several years, let’s imagine 2 years. However, Tod thinks he has found a woman he could settle down with (I guess a permanent fuck buddy? lol) and so calls off his arrangement with Mary. Okay, so now Mary has no booty call on the Tuesday night she usually sees Tod. She begins to think about the previous Tuesdays. Now she imagines he’s doing his funky stuff with this new woman.. Feelings emerge. Jealousy. Anger. Boom. Recipe for disaster.

Friends with benefits are always going to cause tears for one of the members.

10 reasons why Dolly Parton is a badass.

10. She has some well-hidden ink on her body

Dolly has always denied having tattoos, but she inadvertently confirmed the myth when she bent down in January 2012 and revealed a little more cleavage than she meant to. She’s definitely got some ink down near those bad boys. Bravo, Dolly!

9. She’s all about equality, folks.

She hosts “Gay Day” at Dollywood — much to the chagrin of the KKK, who threatened her over the event.

When it first started there were people giving us threats, I still get threats,” Parton said. “But like I said, I’m in business. I just don’t feel like I have to explain myself. I love everybody.

When asked about her thoughts on the hot-button topic of marriage equality, Parton graced us with the following: “I always say, ‘Sure — why can’t they get married?” she said. “They should suffer like the rest of us do!'”

Oh, Dolly. That’s why you’re the greatest.

8. She can play nine different instruments

She can bust out tunes on the autoharp, banjo, drums, dulcimer, fiddle, guitar, harmonica, pennywhistle, and the piano. The freakin’ pennywhistle. Too awesome.

7. She’s never been on a single ride at Dollywood, despite owning it for 20 years

“My daddy used to say, ‘I could never be a sailor. I could never be a miner. I could never be a pilot,’ Dolly said. “I am the same way. I have motion sickness. I could never ride some of these rides. I used to get sick on the school bus.”

6. She accidentally crashed the Imagination Library Website, with a little help from Reddit

The cyber-traffic drummed up from a Reddit post about her free-book program effectively shut down the Imagination Library site, with hordes of parents looking to take part in the free library collection of more than 60 books that Parton is offering to children. Only Dolly Parton could shut down a library site.

5. She lost a Dolly Parton lookalike contest to a man

And it was hilarious, too. “All these beautiful drag queens had worked for weeks and months getting their clothes,” she said. “So I just got in the line and I just walked across, and they just thought I was some little short gay guy…I got the least applause.”

4. She’s covered a Led Zeppelin song

Jimmy Page and Robert Plant approved of it, too, and even let her add some of her own lyrics to her bluegrass remake of “Stairway to Heaven.” Yeah, that’s not going to happen for you, no matter how many fan letters you send out. Only Ms. Parton could get away with that.

3. The first cloned sheep was named after her.

Scientist Ian Wilmut put it like this: “Dolly is derived from a mammary gland cell, and we couldn’t think of a more impressive pair of glands than Dolly Parton’s.”

Makes total sense.

2. She calls her boobs “show dogs”

She really does. Here’s what she says on the subject: “I’m in showbiz. I look at my boobs like they’re show horses or show dogs. You’ve got to keep them groomed.”

1. She turned down Elvis when he wanted to record “I Will Always Love You”

Elvis’ manager, Colonel Tom Parker, demanded that she give up half of the publishing royalties as part of the deal. Here’s what Parton had to say about it:

Well, now it’s already been a hit for me. I wrote it and I’ve already published it. And this is the stuff I’m leaving for my family, when I’m dead and gone. So I can’t give up half the publishing. And he said, ‘Well then, we can’t record it.’ Other people were saying, ‘You’re nuts. It’s Elvis Presley. I’d give him all of it.’ But I said, ‘I can’t do that. Something in my heart says don’t do that.’ And I didn’t do it and they didn’t do it.

American lies unmasked!

So after looking at some American news sites, watching interviews and watching that boob of a President many times, I have composed a little list of lies that the American people need to stop fooling themselves with.

#1 American is the richest country in the world.

Yes, you have the largest GDP, but you also have the largest amount of debt. As a result, America’s money doesn’t really belong to America but to the many countries and institutions from which you borrow.

#2 Your leaders know what they’re doing.

After all the mistakes your nation’s leaders have committed, it’s about time you realise that they’re no better than the rest of us. Many simply get elected because they’re rich or charming or popular. Then once they get elected, they are all too focused on getting reelected as opposed to legislating for their constituents.

#3 Your Education is one of the best in the world.

The U.S. public education system is cloaked in apathy, behavior problems, budget shortfalls, and poor performance. U.S. students rank 25th in math performance and 21st in science performance worldwide. No wonder you’re losing out on jobs to students from countries that take education more seriously.

#4 There is nothing wrong whatsoever with having a debt.

Your culture embraces debt. In fact, the average household owes $15,799 in credit card debt. When Americans face a purchase they can’t afford, such as a house or car, they often don’t think twice about buying it anyway with loans they can’t pay back. It’s not always the bank’s, economy’s, or government’s fault.

#5 You’re entitled to everything you want.

In the real world, life is not handed out on a silver platter. A healthy and able person does not have the “right” to free things like mobile phones. While you should be supporting the needy, you should not be funding the lazy.

#6 A new program or study is always the answer to your problems.

New programs cost money – money that you don’t have. Many times, their inefficiencies and waste cause more problems than they solve. I mean, was it really necessary to spend $3 million to watch shrimp run on a treadmill? (Yes, that really happened.)

#7 A culture that promotes sex, drugs and ‘twerking’ is not harmful to your society.

Listen to today’s popular music and you’ll hear enough references to the “game,” drugs like “Molly,” twerking, and poppin’ caps to make you want to pull your ears off. (By the way, if you don’t know what those words mean, bless you.) Sadly, kids who see celebs being idolised for selling drugs or sleeping around are more likely to believe that such behavior is acceptable and do it themselves.

#8 Everyone loves the United States.

Face it: Everyone around the world is no longer enamored with the United States. This is becoming increasingly evident around the globe as your President has picked sides in Egypt and pushes for an attack on Syria.

#9 If you’re under 45, social security should still be a legitimate part of your retirement plan.

When all of the Baby Boomers start drawing Social Security, more Americans will be receiving funds than contributing to them. According to the Social Security Administration, the money set aside to account for that difference will run out by 2037 – 24 years from now. At that time, benefits will immediately reduce to, at most, 75% of their current amount.

#10 You’re not fat..

Mrs. Obama’s “war on obesity” may rub you the wrong way, and it can certainly be argued that she is taking it overboard with heinous regulations on what defines a ‘healthy’ lunch in schools, but there is absolutely no denying that your nation is fatter than it used to be. Obesity in the U.S. has skyrocketed by 20% in the last 30 years, and heart disease has emerged as the nation’s number one killer.

#11 Your media always tells the truth.

Frankly, I hope you already knew this one. Just like people, media outlets have agendas which affect what they say and how they say it. So don’t believe everything you read or see on TV. Consult multiple sources, ask “why,” and form your own ideas.

Soul Mates.

So there is a lot of topics out there on the subject of soul mates and whether they actually exist or are just a romanticised thing us humans fathom up to make us feel special.

To put it simple, a soul mate is another individual whom we feel a strong, deep affinity with – usually a loved one such as a spouse, though I have known friends to live together because they believe their soul mates.

I used to stand on the fence on this subject, I wasn’t entirely sure if I believed or not. I kinda wanted to, but didn’t want to think that I had one chance with someone out there and if that went down the pan, then I’d never be happy?

However, I have now changed my mind completely. And why? Well, because I know I have found my soul mate. I can’t explain how, but I just know. I have strong feelings for this individual and I miss them terribly if I don’t speak with them. Now many of you may think this is rubbish, and I understand that, I was there with you some time ago!

I thought for a while that we do have a soul mate, though we are compatible (and could be very happy with anyone we find attractive – both looks and personality) with many people. However, true (TRUE TRUE) happiness is found when you find your soul mate. I also think that we will all find out soul mates at some point (maybe not in this life, but the next).

A soul mate is your missing piece of your life puzzle. I have been told by several people that my soul is very old, and that it has been in many times and many places – looking for something that has not allowed it to rest and find peace. I was told that it could be looking for it’s mate (my soul’s mate). I didn’t quite believe this, I’m quite skeptical when it comes to psychics and the paranormal, though after I got told this by a few, I started to believe it.

However, I am pretty sure that after this life my soul can finally rest – because I have yet to found my soul mate.

50 Shades of Grey – a husband’s point of view.

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The missus bought a Paperback, down Shepton Mallet way, I had a look inside her bag; T’was “fifty shades of grey”. 

Well I just left her to it, And at ten I went to bed. An hour later she appeared; The sight filled me with dread… 

In her left she held a rope; And in her right a whip! She threw them down upon the floor, And then began to strip. 

Well fifty years or so ago; I might have had a peek; But Mabel hasn’t weathered well; She’s eighty four next week!! 

Watching Mabel bump and grind; Could not have been much grimmer. And things then went from bad to worse; She toppled off her Zimmer! 

She struggled back upon her feet; A couple minutes later; She put her teeth back in and said I am a dominater !! 

Now if you knew our Mabel, You’d see just why I spluttered, I’d spent two months in traction For the last complaint I’d uttered. 

She stood there nude and naked Bent forward just a bit I went to hold her, sensual like and stood on her left tit! 

Mabel screamed, her teeth shot out; My god what had I done!? She moaned and groaned then shouted out: “Step on the other one”!! 

Well readers, I can’t tell no more; About what occurred that day. Suffice to say my jet black hair, Turned fifty shades of grey.  

The death of a Leader.

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It is sad news that we hear about the death of Baroness Margaret Thatcher (1925 – 2013).

I have to admit, I am absolutely disgusted in some members of the British public on the reaction of a human being’s death. Before I start discussing this, I would just like to add that the woman was a daughter, a mother and a wife – a human being – like you and like me.

Secondly, regardless of political affiliation, a human being has died, and not in the kindest of ways either. Should we not be at least respectful that someone has died?

Well, some of us, the ones with consciences anyway, are saddened by her death. I am a member of the Conservative party and do support some (not all) of their views. However, I don’t think one needs to be a Conservative to know not to throw disrespectful and distasteful jokes about regarding a woman who has recently died (I was told a joke two hours after her death – needless to say I was disgusted).

I could argue until I am blue in the face with people about whether Mrs Thatcher was a good or bad Prime Minister (I firmly believe she was the best Prime Minister the UK has ever had), however, I don’t think we need to. We just need to sit back and pay our respects to a woman who has recently passed away, leaving behind family devastated.

I am actually astounded by the sheer ugliness of some people by the entire situation. I have lost an awful lot of respect for people who I cherished because of their candid jokes and comments about Maggie Thatcher.

Well, I for one, would like to speak on behalf of everyone when I say this:

Rest in Peace, Margaret Thatcher. You will be missed by millions.

Who would speak up for you?

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First they came for the communists,
and I didn’t speak out because I wasn’t a communist.

Then they came for the socialists,
and I didn’t speak out because I wasn’t a socialist.

Then they came for the trade unionists,
and I didn’t speak out because I wasn’t a trade unionist.

Then they came for the Jews,
and I didn’t speak out because I wasn’t a Jew.

Then they came for the Catholics,
and I didn’t speak out because I wasn’t a Catholic.

Then they came for me,
and there was no one left to speak for me.

~ Pastor Martin Niemöller